Frustration

You just never know what tragedy you will be a part of and how it could easily take your life or remind you how easily it can be taken away. As of late Hurricane Sandy has taught us that.

Which leads me to my frustration with myself. Don't get me wrong, I'm so grateful for my parents who I love so dearly but honestly I should own my own place or be in a long term relationship or be married. But what helps with the delay of my wishes is something my therapist used to tell me "the relationship I want will happen when I'm ready to accept it." Let me just say I am way past ready. I miss being in a couple but honestly I haven't been out socially in a while. I plan on changing this in December with the following upcoming events I have planned:

1. A Wine and Painting Class with a Meetup Group December 1st
2. Another Speed Dating Event December 13th
3. New Years Event (where not sure yet) December 31st

Not working full time has made me very comfortable not working a 40 hour week. I have a habit of pretending that my credit cards are free cash and have been buying clothes like crazy when honestly I don't need any more! Buying cute clothes for my new size is definitely the magic pill to cure my depressed mood. And as you know any addiction is just a momentary solution and does not change it. I am aware of my spending and honestly I think I have been pretty good about it but I do need to stop with the clothing and shoes shopping. I mean all these cute dresses and shoes and I've been staying home feeling depressed. I want to find my love and find a job I love. But finding and getting a full time employment is like searching for a good man to date. There's too many people with the same qualifications aiming to win that prize. And that prize can basically accept any recipient they'd like because there are so many of us.

It's so FRUSTRATING! And I know I'm the only person who can change my own life. I know it. I believe that planning has a lot to do with it and I just need to really focus on my love life and job search. I also plan on getting a Masters Degree in Finance so school search is another task I need to grasp. So I declare that December will be a great month and 2013 will be one of the best years ever.

Til the next time.

- Loree

Concerts

I've come to the conclusion. Dare I say it? I'm getting too old for certain types of concerts :( I'm at a Deftones concert now and I cannot stand drunk ass people. Give me a seat paid for with cushion any day. Granted its at Rams Head Live in Baltimore the 3rd worst venue I've been to. 1. Jiffy Lube Live 2. Sonar. And I came wayyyy late which was my fault. But yeah I'm getting too old and impatient. Deftones is definitely a concert on my bucket list but damn. Do things when your able cause time waits for no one. I'm outta here when they "go off stage." I think really another reason is because I'm alone which sucks but I'm here for the band. So do what you love when your able cause you never know when your patience will outweigh your desire. Ugg getting older sucks but I thank God that I'm still here:) Til the next time!

-Loree

The Clock Starts Ticking...

You know how sometimes a tragic event that occurs in your life can physically and mentally put everything on pause? My car accident that totaled my car was in August and there was a court date scheduled because the lady who hit me didn't pay the ticket. I had a witness thank goodness and the court date was Thursday, October 11. I actually thought my witness wouldn't show up but he did but guess who didn't...the cop who wrote the ticket! Unbelievable. You know I don't wish any ill will towards anyone but when someone runs a red light I'd like them to be held accountable for it and paying a ticket or getting a point on their license is the least that they should be charged with. BUT with the cop in question not showing up all charges were dropped. Yes I am super pissed but I am also glad it is over. I felt like I was on hold from getting a car and this court date was consuming my every waking moment. Even though the traffic citation was between the State and the lady in question I didn't know if she'd have some big wig lawyer to differ and possibly hold me at fault. Anyway, it is what is is (my new saying) and was out of my control. As the Serenity Prayer says, "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference." This accident has consumed so much of my time and I'm ready to move on. With that I FINALLY found a car! Its a 2009 Toyota Yaris and its adorable. Red color and it fits me I think. 

More good news I have a second interview with Weight Watchers! It will be a receptionist position and I know does not pay much but I love them so much for helping me lose my weight and I completely and devotedly believe in their program and would love to inspire those who are also on their quest to find their best self. So I'm excited. Yes I'm talking like I already have the job :) but I'm really excited about working for them and the additional income since I've been having a hell of a time finding a job will be a bonus.

I also went to a Grad Fair a couple of weeks ago and it was pretty awesome. I plan on getting my Masters in Finance Management. I want to teach people the best way to spend and save their income for themselves and their families. I'm even considering Grad School out of state since I've never done it and you only live once (that I know of). I'm ultra excited about that. 2012 has been such an awesome year:)

So I do have some things I'd like to focus on the next couple months:

1. Applying to a few Graduate Schools
2. Volunteering
3. Dating

Not necessarily in that order. I will have upcoming post with more details called Fall Happenings.

Til the next time!

- Loree

Speed Dating with Pros in the City and Match.com Happy Hour

Hello All-

So again I've been promising myself to do at least one social event a month and for the month of September I've done two! Pros in the City Speed Dating Event and Match.com Happy Hour Stir Event. I'll start with Pros in the City.

Pros in the City

Well the turn out for men was WAY better this time. I'd say I sped date with 13 guys. I actually was interested in two of them. One was an older gentlemen and the other was a guy from Ireland. It was really interesting and I actually felt no pressure because I didn't really have expectations (which isn't a bad thing). I used to psych myself out thinking that this is it he'll be at this particular event and when I would receive no responses I'd be more depressed and avoid social events for a few weeks afterwards. Although I guess deep down I was hoping that I'd be attracted to at least one guy. Anyway, at the speed dating event the females would sit for the duration at their seat and the guys would get up and spend 4 minutes with each female. It can be a lot of fun or the minutes can feel like an eternity. The guy from Ireland, I'll call him "R" was really funny and had great taste in music (which I love). He was very surprised that I was into British/Irish bands as well. I have a very eclectic taste in music which I think was part of what attracted me to him. The thing with these speed dating events is that once the speed dating is over it can get kinda awkward. Once everyones dating is done you kinda wanna get the hell out of there unless of course you make a connection. So basically everyone left. So it's like you take the test, go home, sleep for the night and then rush to your computer the next day to see the results.  Two guys (including R!) said they were interested in me. The Lawyer (not the older gentlemen I was interested in) who seemed to be absolutely bored and a little stressed out at the dating event was a total turn off and I really wasn't interested in him. I've exchanged two emails with R and that was a few days ago so the ball is in his court. I said we should hang out but rather than pine away and wait I'm going to continue my search, which brings me to the next event:

Match.com Happy Hour Stir Event

Let me preface by saying OY! I believe we females today have a high standard when it comes to the men we want to date and maybe those standards are way to high. I'm sure everyone has noticed those Match.com Stir Up Event commercials that are being created as of late.  The commercials show very attractive men and very attractive women interacting at these events which was basically what I expected. I know that sounds way superficial but I'm just being honest. The event was actually a happy hour at a spot in D.C. and let me tell you it was unorganized to say the least. Anyone could've walked into the establishment and as usual women outnumbered men I'd say two to one especially at these dating event. Deep down I expected as much. There were a few individuals making connections but what I witnessed most were a lot of men just standing around drinking their beverages of choice and groups of women talking to each other. Yes I was one of those women and I remember I read somewhere that a group of women talking among each other is very intimidating for men to approach them. I mean I would totally feel the same if I were the only woman and the guy I wanted to talk to was with a group of his male friends. But alas I didn't see anyone I wanted to talk to or was attracted to so no love connections.

Dating is hard as shit, your basically putting your heart on the line every time but in the end when it works and you find him it's totally worth it. I do still have one credit for another speed dating event so I do plan on doing that when it occurs. When I do these events and no numbers, emails or Facebook pages are exchanged I don't see it as a failure, I use these situations as learning lessons on what I may need to change or do the next time around. Its always good to put yourself out there, you never know when you'll meet the one, it could be on the way to the metro, getting a drink at the bar, meeting your friends at a restaurant, it basically can happen anywhere.

But I think I'm also going to start doing some volunteering and find some activities that include music, drawing and visiting museums which I adore doing. I had lunch with my old boss/mentor and I told her that with the success of obtaining my Bachelor's Degree and weight loss, I am viewing my love life in the same manner. I may have bad weeks where I go to a few events with no love connections or go online and find no connections but the KEY TO SUCCESS TO FINDING LOVE IS NOT GIVING UP. No one is going to bring Prince Charming to my door (unfortunately) so I need to do the work and just keep at it and I will find him. Like a persons' intuition you know what you should do in that current situation and I feel like this is the right path for me to find him.

So I will continue to put my heart and patience out there and hopefully soon I will start actually dating :) Til the next time.

- Loree

Vision Board & Goals

So I've been sending out my resume out like crazy and my brother gave me this brilliant advice to send my resume first thing Monday morning rather than throughout the week (Thanks Joe!). The thought is that with the unbelievable amount of people looking for jobs now, sending your resume during the week will only get lost. When HR receives an email during the AM on a Monday they are more likely to open said email. So I prepared a bunch Sunday Afternoon and emailed them around 9 - 11 AM Monday morning and I actually got a couple of call backs!

Funny thing though, I haven't been motivated in the interviews. I don't know if its because I've been a full time student for the past three years that I just don't wanna deal. Actually I know that its because I'm out of practice. Don't get me wrong I like money and I would like to find a job I love but "in this economy" I feel like I can't be too picky. My goal is to get out of the role of Executive Assistant, Administrative Assistant, anything Assistant but I know that since I just obtained my Bachelor's degree in Management Studies this past May I am considered Entry Level and I'll most likely be an assistant for a while. So I need to deal with that for the time being. In addition I have to find a new car since mines was totaled. Unreal what life can throw at you but I will deal.

I think what will make my head feel less in the clouds is updating that Vision Board that I've mentioned countless times. It is as follows:

1. Date
2. Stop being a homebody, socialize a bit more
3. Visit museums more (at least once a month)
4. Learn Spanish 
5. Learn German
6. Visit Rome, Ireland, Spain, Greece basically travel more
7. Religion - Read the Bible
8. Mediate Every Day and invest more in my spirituality
9. Would love to purchase my dream car which is a Dodge Challenger
10. Buy my own place
11. Sing Karaoke in front of an audience
12. Obtain my Masters in Web Design or Finance (haven't decided which yet)
13. Find a career/job I love and can grow in
14. Get my retirement right

Below you'll find the image of my Vision Board. I need to add #14 which I have. It's so important to prepare for your future because I am assuming that social security will not exist for me when I retire. 

Out of the list, I have been working on 1.) Dating, 2.) Finding a Job - working with Randstad a job placement agency and 3.) Travel More, going to Atlantic City in September which is exciting!

Again, I can't stress how important it is to have your goals out there in front of you. I'm a visual person and it really does seeing this goals first thing when I wake up. So onward and upward!

Have a great Labor Day and til the next time!

- Loree

Meetup Event to 2nd Base?

So on my Vision Board one of the things I wanted to do and basically need to do is date more and be more social. So I went to a Meetup/Happy Hour Event in D.C. It was fun, I wore my green sleeveless dress. <<SIDEBAR>>First I wanna say, I never was comfortable showing my arms but since losing weight and actually doing the weight lifting arm exercises 3 times a week worked! I love my arms! I had a habit of printing out exercises moves but never doing them. It's amazing that if you actually do the exercises consistently it actually works! Anyhow sorry back to my story at hand....

The Meetup Event at a rooftop club had the purpose of meeting new people and raising money for the homeless and they had a great turnout. The crowd was supposed to include people in their 30s and 40s but there definitely were older individuals and younger which brings me to the story here. I met up with my cousin and another close friend and we were conversing with people. The first guy we spoke with had to be 2 inches from my cousins face, he reminded me of the "close talker" in that episode of Seinfeld. Well when he finally had to use the men's room and gave us a break a young guy came up to us asking which one of his friends we thought was the hottest. I'm thinking, he and his crew definitely were under the age of 30 crowd because that question is very high schoolish but I digress we answered the question. My cousin and I agreed that it was the Blonde Adonis sitting on the couch. I mean this kid was ridiculous. So next thing we know he is calling this kid over and he looked even better close up! Insane, great hair you can run your fingers through but the sides were close shaven, biceps and you could tell he had a six pack and a smile that made, me at least, feel like 12 year old girl. But one thing we noticed Adonis couldn't stay still which made me think he was definitely on something medicinal (legal or illegal I don't know). Oh did I mention that he and his friends work for a medical establishment? They all came to the happy hour in their medical smocks, I'm sure to show that they are the sh*t and work in the medical profession. So funny. Anyhow Adonis eventually left and went dancing on the dance floor. He basically danced the whole night through. Well he had 3 other friends also in the medical profession, another Caucasian kid, a "Harry Belafonte lookalike" and an African American kid. We spoke to them for a bit then danced for a bit. Then the club switched over the music to lounge music indicating we needed to get the hell out, party is over. This was around 9:30/10:00 pm. So my cousin, and our friend and I walked outside the club.

As we are leaving who do we see getting into a taxi fan. The medical crew! They asked us to go with and said they were headed to another club and would we like to join. Now mind you, Adonis was there and cute "Harry Belafonte" so we said what the hell. Now the next part of this story I advise no young lady to do on their own. Honestly we shouldn't have done it as a group as well. Instead of heading to the club we were heading to "Belafonte's" place. The reason being he had to change. So we were like ummmmm o.....k...... We were very hesitant but we ended up going anyways. When we went to "Belafonte's" place, Adonis was there, the kid who sparked the conversation was there, another Caucasian male was there and an African american male was there. All five guys were with us at the Meetup. Anyhow they were taking they're sweet ass time changing! I mean they put on music, and asked us if we wanted to smoke (and I don't mean cigarettes). In unison we ladies said "NOPE." So they asked if we wanted a drink, we also said "NOPE," again. Honestly I felt like I was watching a movie that was either a comedy or beginnings of a tragic story. These guys seem cool and I didn't get any bad vibes from them but you never know. Anyhow, the Caucasian kid left and so did the kid who introduced us so all. So all that was left was the African American guy who was into our friend. Adonis who was into all of us and Belafonte who was into me. 

These guys were definitely trying to get some but doing a poor job. I mean Belafonte left the room for second and came back shirtless. I mean seriously! LOL But <<SIDEBAR>> Belafonte did have a great body, six pack and all but I digress. Belafonte and I danced a bit and O.k. just so we're clear I had to look up 1st, 2nd, and 3rd Base in regards to relationships to make sure I'm using the right terms correctly. Went to wiki answers states that 2nd base is defined as " 2. rubbing, touching, normally over clothes, ( http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_definition_of_each_base_-_first_second_and_third ).", Which I would say Belafonte got to with me and our friend and Adonis (the African American kid feel asleep LOL) danced a bit and my cousin well she's in a relationship so she kept to herself. 

Long ass story short we ended up leaving because the Washington D.C. Metro system for the 100th time were doing track work and I had to shuttle between two stations which meant getting home was going to be a nightmare and very late on my own. We tell the guys we gotta go, went outside, "Harry Belfonte" walked us out but asked us to wait they were coming. We waited 30 seconds and left. Belfonte called asking why we left and we (with the permission of the taxi driver) blamed it on the taxi driver. Then I lost the connection. I went to the metro station and surprisingly Belfonte called me back asking for me to return and I told him I'm halfway home and said he would hit me back the following weekend. That was 3 weeks ago and I've yet to hear back which is totally cool and what I totally expected.

But let me say I had a blast! It's been a while since I've interacted with the opposite sex and having a guy interested in me was a definite confidence booster. He was really cute and had an amazing body. So I think I'm at a good start with the socializing, I have another speed dating event on Friday September 9th and a Stir Event by Match on September 17th so we'll see how those goes and I'll report back. 

Bottom line is as in all things "PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT." I'm coming to the conclusion that it doesn't have to be so difficult and that my love is out there.  

Til the next time!

- Loree

1st Dating Experience in Years!

Well I did it! I signed up for a Fastlife Speeding Dating event. I haven't been on a date in YEARS! It happened this past Thursday, August 9, 2012 and the theme was tall men between the ages of 32 - 46. I had a coupon and that was the only theme they had besides a Hindu dating theme and you guessed it I'm not Hindu. Well guess what? There were supposed to be 12 Guys for 12 Girls and two yes only two guys showed up! As usual more women then men showed up to the dating event. I notice that all the time for each speed dating event ad online there is ALWAYS ALWAYS MORE MEN NEEDED! I don't know if its the D.C. area or if men are just flaky in this area or if there's just too many freaking women around. Fastlife did say they would credit us for another event. As frustrating as it was they allowed us the opportunity to have a free drink, appetizers and speed date with the two gentlemen that actually showed up. So I and another woman said what the hell and did the date.

Date #1

Brian.* He was very well traveled, works in IT and is from the D.C. area. He was African American and o.k. looking to me at least. He did have pretty light brown eyes, but they kind of looked like contacts. His eyes were so wide I felt like I was getting the third degree rather a friendly dating session. Oh and he never smiled. He did ask me out and I said o.k. (even though deep down I wasn't going to call him) and the date lasted 8 minutes. Then ding on to the 2nd date of the evening...

Date #2

Victor.* Was a gentlemen who worked in the Financial Industry. He just moved here from Florida I believe he said and lives in Tyson's Corner, VA. He is native from Russia and had a really cute accent. He also didn't smile, and I know I was smiling. He was really cute but I didn't get any romantic feelings from him. He did say he was interested in me and that was solidified when I got an email from the organization saying he was but I've yet to hear from him. Unbelievable! So I don't know if I should bother contacting him at all. That was Friday, August 10th and today is the 13th. Ugggh.

Anyways, the thing that blows my mind about this event is these guys paid for these events and didn't bother showing up. To my recollection the women that did show up were attractive and there was variety. Three African American Females, One Asian Female and One Caucasian Female. But this will not stop me from trying it again. I actually had fun. It was nice to get all dolled up in my cute yellow dress and heels. So I plan on doing another event either at the end of this month or September. I think the more I do the more comfortable I'll get with the opposite sex since the really cute ones make me feel like 12 year old girl with her first crush.

Also I thought this would be better than the online dating since I haven't been getting responses from men I'm interested in and the ones who contact me I don't even have a quarter teaspoon of interest in. I am a part of OK Cupid, and How About We. So I plan on putting those two on hold and open a Match.com account so we'll see how that goes. I did get told I was beautiful and fit from both dudes which makes it sound like I needed they're validation but I don't. But it still feels good to hear.

I am loving the new me and I can't wait til I find my man wherever the hell he is :) Till the next time!

- Loree

*Names changed cause honestly I don't remember them.